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Harry Meeker

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Harry Alan Meeker of Melbourne, Florida, and East Hampton passed away on Feb. 5 at Holmes Regional Medical Center in Melbourne after a fall in his home. At the time of his passing, Harry was surrounded by his loving family and the caring staff at HRMC. 

Harry was born on Aug. 18, 1927, in Mineola to Henry and Marie Meeker and was the eldest of six children. He is survived by his wife Joan of 70 years; his daughter Susan and son-in-law Jim Paul of Melbourne; his son Christopher and daughter-in-law Sally of Sound Beach; his son Stephen and daughter-in-law Eileen of Newtown, Connecticut; grandchildren Kyle, Owen and Peri; and great-grandchildren Ava and Silhouette; his youngest brother Jon; and his sisters-in-law Nancy, Anne and Kathy. He was predeceased by his brothers David, Roger and Peter, and sister Doris Benson.

Harry received his bachelor’s in education from Cortland State Teachers College in 1950. Throughout college, Harry participated in a variety of intercollegiate sports and was named a member of the All-American college lacrosse team. Immediately after college, Harry was drafted into the Army, attended Officer Candidate School and deployed to Korea where he served as a platoon leader in the 3rd Infantry Division. There he was awarded the Bronze Star Medal and Combat Infantryman and Sharpshooter (Carbine) badges. Upon his honorable discharge from the Army as first lieutenant in 1953, Harry began his 31-year teaching career and received a master’s degree in education from Colgate University. Throughout his career as a high school math, science and physical education teacher in the Three Village Central School District, Harry took an active interest in his students often chaperoning hiking, camping and skiing trips. As the P.J. Gelinas Junior High School principal, Harry developed and chaperoned an international exchange program with a middle school in England.

Harry enjoyed the outdoors whether gardening, camping, canoeing, skiing, hiking, boating or sitting and watching the sunset. He drew his family along on many a mountain climb, canoeing expedition and camping trip. Cooking and planning the week’s menu was a passion that led to many an adventurous meal. He was a hard worker, a natural leader, a supportive friend, faithful husband and dedicated father. While working his way through college, he met his wife while delivering ice in the late 1940s. Harry and Joan were married on June 27, 1953, in Most Holy Trinity R.C. Church in East Hampton. Even into his 96th year, Harry referred to a refrigerator as the “ice box.” 

Interment with military honors will be on Wednesday, Feb. 21, at 10 a.m. at Cape Canaveral National Cemetery, Mims, Florida, with memorial repast immediately to follow. 

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations are considered to the American Cancer Society at www.cancer.org or the IRCC Foundation at colonyclub.com in Harry’s name.

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Brooke Ellison, 45, a pioneering disabilities advocate whose abilities with words and compassion far outdid her disability, died on Sunday, February 4.

Ellison was a tenured Associate Professor in the School of Health Professions in the Department of Health Sciences at Stony Brook University.

A resident of Stony Brook, Ellison was returning home from Murphy Junior High School as an 11-year old when she was struck by a car. The accident, which paralyzed her from the neck down, didn’t deter her budding academic interest or her ambitions.

As soon as she woke from the accident, she insisted she not fall behind in school.

With her mother Jean at her side throughout her education, Ellison became the first quadriplegic to graduate in 2000 from Harvard College, where she received magna cum laude honors in cognitive neuroscience and gave the class commencement speech.

Ellison earned a Master’s in Public Policy in 2004 from Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government and received her PhD in sociology from Stony Brook University in 2012.

A passionate advocate for accessibility and opportunity for the disabled, Ellison conducted research on the ethics and policy of science and health care.

Her mission “was to turn what happened to her into a [way to] help people who are handicapped achieve independence,” said Miriam Rafailovich, Distinguished Professor in Material Science and Engineering.
Ellison wrote two books about her life. The first, called “Miracles Happen” became a movie directed by Christopher Reeve titled “The Brooke Ellison Story.” More recently, Ellison published “Look Both Ways.”

Jean Ellison said her daughter felt her recent book was one of her most important contributions. Knowing she was in failing health after surviving three bouts with sepsis over the last year and a half, Brooke Ellison felt a sense of urgency to share her experiences.

“She poured out [her life] to the universe through this book,” said Jean Ellison.

While Ellison died young, she lived for over 33 years after the accident, which is well above the seven years the medical community expected at the time for someone on a ventilator.

‘Deep sadness’

Ellison served on several committees and boards, including the Board of the Directors of the New York Civil Liberties Union and the search committee for a president of Stony Brook.

In a letter to the campus community, President Maurie McInnis, who expressed her “deep sadness” for Ellison’s passing, recounted how Ellison was one of the first people she met on campus.

“Her legacy at Stony Brook and beyond is defined by passionate advocacy for inclusive education, healthcare and disability rights,” McInnis wrote in a letter to the campus community. “She helped alert me and others to our blind spots and offered many ideas for making this campus more inclusive and welcoming.”

Ellison was recently teaming up with students using drones and artificial intelligence images to map the topography of Stony Brook.

“To go from one building to the next looks like a straight pathway, but at the end, a one-inch drop, which is not encoded anywhere” could be a huge problem for someone in a wheelchair, said Rafailovich.

Ellison’s students asked her what she would want a robot near her that she could control to do. She suggested a hand she could control that could turn the pages of a book.

Ellison was working with the Federal Emergency Management Agency to ensure that people with disabilities who need power for ventilators or other equipment receive immediate attention after power disruption.

“She noticed during Hurricane Sandy that emergency workers had no idea where people who were on life support were during two weeks,” said Rafailovich.

Ellison was working with the state to get a new system where people on life support could receive help quickly.

Ellison had planned to do a fellowship at the Harvard Kennedy Carr Center for Human Rights Policy.

Caring for everyone

In addition to her focus on helping people with disabilities achieve independence, Ellison served in many capacities at Stony Brook, including as the Director of the Center for Community Engagement and Leadership Development.

Among her many efforts, Ellison also ran for election in 2006 for the New York State Senate, where she lost to republican incumbent John Flanagan.

Ellison was a committed educator who asked students before they met her in an ethics class to describe what they thought would make a life not worth living. Students suggested this would include not being able to do things they needed, needing care from someone else, or living on life support.

At the end of the semester, she asked the same question.

“They thought if they were on life support or if they had to have someone take care of them, maybe it could be done,” Jean Ellison said. “Their whole outlook changed.”

Senior Sabah Bari, who is a Health Science student, appreciated how Ellison spent the first 15 minutes of class asking how students were doing. Describing Ellison as “one of the most influential people I’ve gotten to know,” Bari plans to dedicate her pursuit of a master’s in public health to Ellison.

Stacy Gropack, Dean of the School of Health Professions explained that the school is eager to make sure students are doing well and feeling well at all levels.

“Many of our instructors do that,” Gropack said, but “Ellison in her position took it to a different level. She was always very concerned that students were in the right place and were healthy. She made sure students had the capacity to succeed at all levels.”

A dedicated family

Ellison received considerable ongoing support from her family.

Jean Ellison served numerous roles, from getting up at 3:45 am each day to get her dressed to driving her to ensuring her slides were ready and in order for her presentation. It took six hours from the time Ellison awoke until she was ready to leave.

Jean Ellison is “probably one of the most dedicated, strongest women I know,” said Gropack. Ellison “could not have accomplished what she did without [her mother] on all fronts.”

Mathias Risse, Berthold Beitz Professor in Human rights, Global Affairs and Philosophy at the Harvard Kennedy School, recalled how he taught an ethics class that included Ellison in the fall of 2002.

Ellison was “one of the most talented students in the class,” Risse wrote in a memorial to his former student. “Jean was there with her, every time, and she was as much a member of the [class] of 2004 as [Ellison] was herself.”

When the two of them were on campus, “everyone knew who they were, mother and daughter,” Risse wrote.

Ellison’s father Ed and her siblings Kysten and Reed provided important, meaningful and ongoing care for her.

“One of us had to be with her 24 hours a day, seven days a week,” said Ed Ellison. “Jean and I feel very blessed to have had the opportunity to help her do what she wanted to do. It was a life well-lived.”

Ellison adored her family and, in particular, her five nephews, who not only returned her affection, but were also fiercely protective of her.

One of Ellison’s nephews had a cat that she almost ran over in her wheelchair. She asked her students to help her design a 360 degree camera so she could survey the perimeter when the cat was nearby.

“That’s the kind of independence she wanted,” said Rafailovich.

Ellison shared affection with her family and friends by blowing kisses frequently. Her father stroked her cheek and lifted her up out of her chair and put her arms around his neck.

“The love she had for everyone oozed out of her,” Jean Ellison said. Her daughter “constantly told people how much she loved them.”

Before the accident, Ellison had been a ballet dancer. She would sometimes dream of herself dancing.

“We both like to think that she’s dancing now,” said Jean Ellison.

Stem cell research

Ellison became a powerful voice in some of the earlier battles in 2000 over stem cell research. Stem cells are undifferentiated cells that could one day help in the treatment and care of people with neurological limitations.

Ellison, who founded the Brooke Ellison Project, helped establish the New York State stem cell research organization, which provided research funding outside of the federal level.

Ellison and the Christopher Reeve foundation “had the courage to put [state funding] in place,” said Rafailovich. “She saw stem cell research as the key if we’re ever going to regenerate nerves.”

Ellison recognized any new treatment wouldn’t happen immediately, but wanted to help people in the future who were dealing with similar challenges.

Ellison is featured in the upcoming documentary “Super/Man: The Christopher Reeve Story,” which was recently shown at the Sundance Film Festival.

Ellison served as a board member on the Empire State Stem Cell Board, which designed New York State’s stem cell policy from 2007 to 2014.

In 2017, Ellison also served on the board of directors of the New York State Civil Liberties Union and, in 2018, was chosen as a political partner for the Truman National Security Project.

“We count ourselves incredibly lucky to have known her and are extraordinarily humbled by who she was and what she accomplished in her short life,” NYCLU Executive Director Donna Lieberman wrote in an email. “I have benefited immeasurably from [Ellison’s] wisdom and friendship, and I am especially grateful or her patience and determination in helping the NYCLU to better understand and advocate for the rights of people with disabilities.”

Leaders from the Truman National Security Project, which is a diverse nationwide community of leaders united with the goal of developing smart, national security solutions that reinforce strong, equitable, effective and non-partisan American global leadership, expressed their appreciation and admiration for Ellison’s contributions.

Ellison was a “visionary, leader, teacher, and, most importantly, a true friend to us and the disability community. [Ellison’s] eloquence captured the heights and depths of the disabled experience – beauty, pain, nuances, and silver linings – while pushing society’s boundaries of a more inclusive and dynamic world. Amongst [Ellison’s] vast list of accomplishments and accolades, her kindness and strength touched everyone she met,” wrote Jessica Gottsleben and Kristin Duquette, TruDisability Experts, in a statement.

Ellison thought well outside of her wheelchair and outside of the proverbial box.

In the first day of class, Bari recalled how Ellison asked students to think about the character Thanos from the Marvel series.

Bari recalled wondering, “are we in the right class? Where is she taking us?”

Throughout the class, Bari suggested that she and her fellow students rethought numerous aspects of their lives.

In her own words

In the introduction to her book “Look Both Ways,” which people can hear Ellison read on YouTube or on her web site BrookeEllison.com, she shares her life and perspective.

Look Both Ways

 

“People living with disability are celebrated yet rejected, are the objects of both praise and of ridicule, and are heralded for their understanding of challenge, while often left to battle those challenges on their own,” she wrote.

Ellison continued, “the lens from which I view the world is not one of disability, but rather one of humanity touched by disability, which serves to heighten the lessons fundamental to our lives: those of adaptation and problem solving, leadership and growth, compassion and hope. These are the lessons of disability. These are the lessons of life.”

Funeral

Ellison is survived by her parents Ed and Jean Ellison, her sister Kysten Ellison and her husband David Martin, their sons Carter and Harrison, her brother Reed Ellison and his wife Ellen Ellison and their three sons Jamie, Oliver and Theodore.

Visitation will be held next Monday, February 12 at Bryant Funeral Home, 411 Old Town Road in Setauket  from 2 p.m. to 8 p.m. The family will hold a private burial service.
How you can help
Those interested in helping to sustain the legacy of Brooke Ellison can donate to the Brooke Ellison Legacy Scholarship through the following website: https://alumniandfriends.stonybrook.edu/site/Donation2?df_id=2660&2660.donation=form1&mfc_pref=T&designation=5701

Richard Angelo LoNigro Sr.

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On Feb. 1, Port Jefferson resident and longtime business leader Richard Angelo LoNigro Sr. passed away. LoNigro was born in Brooklyn on April 22, 1942. As a young man, LoNigro flourished on the baseball diamond as a catcher at Carey High School in Franklin Square. After graduating in 1960, LoNigro enlisted in the U.S. Navy and served on the USS Tanner. The following year, LoNigro married his sweetheart Priscilla, beginning their long life together.

LoNigro had an impressive tryout at Yankee Stadium, where he hit two home runs into the outfield bullpen. After playing at spring training for the New York Yankees in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, LoNigro ended his baseball career and headed back to Long Island. However, for years, he was a baseball scout for the New York Mets. At first, he supported his growing family of three children as a delivery driver for Tip-Top Bread in Garden City.

In 1966, the LoNigro family of 12 children became longtime residents of Selden. Five years later, LoNigro started what became Port Jefferson Sporting Goods. LoNigro eventually was meeting the diverse sporting needs of individuals, teams, and schools from Montauk to New York City. His store had a thriving front end that stocked Nike and Adidas merchandise, college and professional team hats, sporting equipment, and a full wall of sneakers for every type of sport. 

Through the support of his children LoNigro built this store into one of the top-10 sporting goods organizations in the United States. Tirelessly working almost seven days a week, he was recognized for his success by companies like Rawlings with the Silver Glove award that was bestowed on a limited number of sporting businesses. 

LoNigro was a citizen who gave back to his community by helping the earliest functions of St. Gerard Majella R.C. Church in Port Jefferson Station. 

Longtime St. Anthony’s High School athletic director, Donal Buckley, marveled at the energy that LoNigro presented in running his business and helping others. Buckley recalled the presence of LoNigro “to be a key contributor in moving a religious grotto from Smithtown to Huntington Station. He supported numerous fundraiser events for this school and was beyond fair when purchasing team uniforms.”

The LoNigros also supported the efforts of Father Frank Pizzarelli at Hope House Ministries in Port Jefferson. He worked on its board to help the vital efforts of caring for children who faced hard times through its mission statement that “Every life is Sacred.” 

LoNigro was a legendary local figure who had an unyielding ability to help others through a multitude of various charities. The Suffolk County Police Athletic League presented LoNigro as their Man of the Year in 2000. Moreover, in 2016, the Suffolk Sports Hall of Fame thanked him as one of the original board members to recognize the finest athletes from this area and the contributions that they made to their own communities. LoNigro was an avid golfer who loved the sport and enjoyed playing with his friends. LoNigro and Priscilla liked their time at Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, and attending the multiple events and accomplishments of their 26 grandchildren, nine great-grandchildren and one great-great-grandchild. 

Long Island has lost an iconic person who was an American success story that worked his way up from humble beginnings and became a notable business leader. LoNigro’s store represented a simpler time years ago that saw an owner know his customers who spent decades shopping at this special establishment. He set an important bar of excellence to stand behind numerous causes that made Long Island a better place. Thank you to Richard A. LoNigro and his family for their decades of humanity toward the vital needs of their fellow citizens.

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Luise Marie Weiss, a cherished member of the Middle Country community passed on Dec. 21 at the age of 86. Luise was born on April 25, 1937 in Mineola. Luise was the daughter of Julius Steinbrenner and Elsa Muller. 

Throughout her life Luise left an indelible mark on her community, serving nearly 40 years at Middle Country Public Library. Here, she worked as the head of adult services, where she spearheaded the law, business and careers collections, topics she expressed a great passion for. In her time in this role, Luise connected with many community members offering a warmth and rejuvenating presence.

“She was a person who had a passion and enthusiasm for books and reference and learning and education, she pulled everybody in,” Director of the Middle Country Public Library, Sophia Serlis-McPhillips said. “Luise was very influential in all of our lives [at the library].” 

In addition to her work at the library, Luise played an integral part in the development of the Miller Business Center, a regional resource for businesses, independent entrepreneurs, not-for-profit organizations, and individuals. 

“It was Luise’s passion and influence with that collection that drove us to that next step,” Serlis-McPhillips said. “The Miller Center is a big initiative of our library foundation. We have so many businesses on Long Island and if you think about the Center, it all emanated from the passion, really of this one woman.”

The goal of the center is to support regional economic development by promoting a literate and job-ready workforce and providing employment information and career exploration opportunities. 

“At the time, the Center was almost equal to a law library,” Serlis-McPhillips explained. “Everything that we did… we partnered with the Hauppauge Industrial Association, to give members access to the resources that we had, teaching people how to use them, and more networking. Luise’s passion really fueled all that.”

Luise’s love of business was one of her most beloved characteristics. She earned two master’s degrees, a degree in Library Science from CW Post and the other in History from Stony Brook University.

“She loved history,” Serlis-McPhillips said. “She wrote a variety of books. She helped us when we wrote our history book for Middle Country.”

She is survived by her loving children, Kirk, Wayne, and Wendy. She now finds comfort in the embrace of a long-awaited reunion with her late son Douglas.

Her spirit lives in her 10 grandchildren and five great-grandchildren. Services were held at Moloney-Sinnicksons Funeral Home in Center Moriches.

“You know when you come across the special people in your life, that was Louise.” Serlis-McPhillips said.

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Virginia A. Steinsvold

Virginia A. Steinsvold of Fort Salonga, passed on Dec. 6, at 88 years of age. Beloved wife of John A. Steinsvold and loving mother of Christopher and his wife Anna Grant, and the late Teddy and a cherished grandmother of John. Visitation was held at Nolan Funeral Home in Northport on Dec. 12. Family and friends gathered for funeral services on Dec. 13, before proceeding to Calverton National Cemetery where she was laid to rest with her son. 

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Craig M. Schortzmann

Craig M. Schortzmann, 76, beloved husband for 55 years to Barbara Schortzmann, of Avon, passed away Jan. 15. Born in Brooklyn, son of the late Ervin and Margaret Schortzmann, he was raised in Commack. 

He graduated from Commack High School where he met the love of his life Barbara when they were 13 years old. While at Commack High School, Craig was also a recipient of a varsity letter in gymnastics.

After high school he went on to earn his associates degree from Suffolk Community College in Business Administration and served in the 101st airborne division of the US Army. Craig spent his professional career in sales and management in the electronics field retiring from ChipTech as Vice President of Operations in 2012. 

Craig loved the beach and was an avid boater and scuba diver, including being a Grumman Dive Club instructor, for many years. He was an exceptional craftsman especially working on home improvement projects and was affectionately referred to as “Mr. MacGyver ‘’. 

In 2017, he and Barbara moved to Avon to be part of their grandchildren’s lives. Craig also joined Prince Thomas of Savoy Society where he quickly made many friends and enjoyed all the activities and volunteer opportunities PTS had to offer. Craig served on the Scholarship Committee, on cook teams, as well as the family picnic and dinner dance committees. He played bocce on the Legends Team, cards, and darts and was named the Man of the Year in 2021. He was also a communicant of the Church of Saint Ann. Most of all, he loved being a grandfather and spending time with his family. 

Besides his beloved wife Barbara, he is survived by his daughter Danielle Schortzmann Wilken, his son Craig J. Schortzmann and his wife Lisa, five grandchildren Eric and Rachel Wilken, Sloane, Vivienne, and Charlotte Schortzmann. 

A Mass of Christian Burial will be held Saturday, Feb. 3 at 11 AM directly at the Church of Saint Ann, 289 Arch Road, Avon. Immediately after the Mass, Craig’s family will receive friends from 1-4 PM.  For directions or condolences please visit www.carmonfuneralhome.com.

Contributions may be made to The Craig & Barbara Schortzmann Academic Scholarship at University of Bridgeport, American Cancer Society Hope Lodge Jerome L. Greene Family Center – NYC, or Samuel Waxman Cancer Research Center.

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Armen Humpartsoum Zemanian

Armen Humpartsoum Zemanian, of Port Jefferson, passed away peacefully on Jan. 20.

Armen, beloved father and grandfather, was born in Bridgewater, Massachusetts to Filor Paparian and Parsegh Zemanian on April 16, 1925.  Having lost his father at a young age, Armen moved with his mother and sisters from a farmhouse in Massachusetts to Manhattan.  He attended Bronx High School of Science, CCNY and NYU where he received his Master’s and PHD in Electrical Engineering. He served in the U.S. Army, discharged in 1945.

Armen was a charter professor at the opening of Stony Brook University in 1962 and eventually rose to the status of emeritus professor. During his career, Armen was mentor and host to many domestic and foreign students. He retired at the age of 86 having received honors from various institutions including the Institute of Electrical Engineers, the Russian Academy of Natural Sciences, the Armenian National Academy of Sciences, Dubna International University and the National Science Foundation. He is the author of 151 journals and articles, 55 conference papers and 6 theoretical books focused on Infinite and Transfinite Electrical Networks and Electrical Network Theory.  

Armen is survived by his children, Peter, Thomas, Lewis, and Susan. He is also survived by his seven grandchildren, Steven, Carolyn, Laura, Ann, Kate, Cormac and Wade, and many nieces and nephews. He is predeceased by his two sisters Anahid Provenzano and Siranoosh Shahinian.  

Armen was an unfailingly kind and positive man. He was dedicated to his wife and best friend Edna Williamson Zemanian and cared for her through a long and difficult illness until her death in 2011. He loved reading histories and autobiographies, classic movies and 19th century literature. He brought a quiet depth of knowledge into every conversation and enthralled us with his mastery of global issues, politics, ancient history, languages, music and arts. His wife would say that he was the most interesting man in any room, always presented with a self-deprecating approach accompanied by a love of silly jokes and songs.  

The family plans no current ceremony but will host a celebration of Armen’s life later this year.  He will be buried at Setauket Presbyterian Church beside his wife of 53 years.

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Teri Ellen Kaplan. Photo courtesy Shari Bardash-Eivers

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Teri Ellen Kaplan was born Dec. 12, 1935, to Helen Burger Kaplan and Edward Kaplan. She was born and raised in the Bronx and was a very proud member of both her neighborhood borough and her heritage. 

Teri graduated from Bronx High School of Science in 1953 and that summer went on to be a counselor at a sleepaway camp in the Catskills where she met the love of her life, Irwin Bardash. The two were just about to start college — Irwin at Cornell and Teri at Barnard. They dated throughout their college careers. Teri graduated from Barnard on a Tuesday in June of 1957, she and Irwin would be married the following Sunday, and so began their 63-year journey of love and laughter.

When the newlyweds journeyed back up to Ithaca for Irwin’s fifth year of studies in engineering, Teri became an administrator for the regional office of Girls Scouts of the United States of America, training leaders and association administrators in Tompkins and Tioga counties. She always said that “cookie season” was the highlight of her job, as cookie tasting was one of her responsibilities in securing the cookie vendors for that year’s Girl Scout cookie sale. Teri never passed up a good cookie.

The happy couple moved back downstate when Irwin secured an engineering position at Armour. Shortly thereafter in December 1958, Teri and Irwin had their first child, Seth. A year or so later, the family of three moved to south Jersey for Irwin’s new career opportunity at RCA. In November 1960, Teri and Irwin welcomed their second son, Michael. Then in 1964, their family would be complete with the birth of a daughter, Shari. 

In 1966, Irwin accepted a position with a new defense-oriented company, Sedco Systems of Farmingdale, and the young family moved to Stony Brook. It was pretty rural in Stony Brook in 1966. There was no

Smith Haven Mall, no Stony Brook University Hospital, for that matter, there was no Nicholls Road south of Nesconset Highway. Yet the young family moved to the Strathmore “B” section so the kids could benefit from the outstanding public education offered through the Three Village school district.

When Teri’s youngest child was old enough to enter nursery school, Teri started graduate work at Stony Brook University. She was a bit of a trailblazer in that there were not yet many female graduate students. In fact, in her interview, she was asked how her children would be cared for while she was in class to which she remarked that she would deal with her kids as they were her responsibility and her business, and Stony Brook should focus on educating its students as that was its responsibility and its business.

As her children progressed through school, all eventually graduating from Ward Melville High School, Teri completed her master’s degree and doctorate in English, focusing on Old English and Old English charms. Having taught as a graduate assistant throughout her graduate programs, she secured positions at Suffolk County Community College and C. W. Post — now LIU Post — where she taught the requisite courses in composition. Yet her true passion flourished when teaching such courses as comparative literature and especially sexism in literature.

She learned to juggle the responsibilities of child rearing with its carpools, class mom duties, music lessons and orthodontist appointments with her professional career. And when she found herself longing to write, she secured an editorial position at The Village Times. She covered various news-oriented stories, but thrived writing her column which shed a comical light on the usually mundane details of everyday life situations. 

After several years at The Village Times, Teri ventured out with a few other colleagues to start a monthly magazine, Suffolk, which highlighted news and human-interest stories throughout the county. The magazine, while beautiful in format, only lasted four issues. But it provided a plethora of knowledge about the structure and requirements of running a published venture. 

Teri accepted a position as advertising director at the Three Village Herald and put her understanding of good copy along with her newfound appreciation for paid and plentiful advertising to work.

After several successful years at the Three Village Herald, Teri again ventured out, with Kathy

Golimowski, and established a successful advertising agency, Pentek Advertising. Throughout its history as a women-owned business, Pentek designed striking logos, sophisticated brochures and beautiful ads, winning numerous BOLI (Best of Long Island) Awards along the way. As Teri eyed retirement, she accepted a lucrative buyout of Pentek by Cameron Advertising where she continued to service her clients for several years until she left the field.

All of Teri’s professional insights and successes do nothing to illuminate the person that she was or really the team that she and Irwin became. During the 1960s and ’70s, Teri and Irwin sat on drug councils and worked to advance civil rights, equal rights, and women’s rights and reproductive rights. 

Teri and Irwin were active in their children’s education and PTOs at each of the schools the children attended. Teri and Irwin helped grow and sustain their synagogue, North Shore Jewish Center, and both were active on its executive board and the various search committees over time. Both Teri and Irwin remained active in their community, holding board positions: Teri for Smithtown Library and Irwin, The Waterfront Commission. 

Teri and Irwin traveled the globe extensively with friends and family always broadening their horizons and laughing along the way. Teri and Irwin remained completely enthralled with their children and grandchildren, and all the activities that go with that.

Irwin Bardash passed away on Nov. 19, 2020, after 63 years of marriage. While it was hard to imagine a life without her Irwin, Teri continued to attend her various book clubs and social gatherings, first via Zoom during COVID-19 and then back in person, and participate in family activities until she passed away on Dec. 28, 2023. In lieu of flowers, the family is requesting donations be made to Barnard College in memory of Teri Kaplan Bardash, Class of 1957, at: giving.barnard.edu.

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Connie and Ken Gorman. Photo courtesy Kim Gorman

The late Connie and Ken Gorman were honored by their family and friends on Nov. 12 last year.

 John Kenneth “Ken” Gorman died at home in Florida on April 16, 2018, and Constance Corbett “Connie” Gorman died in assisted living in California on Nov. 2, 2023. As per their wishes, they were cremated, their ashes were mixed and spread by their family and friends. They were residents of Stony Brook from 1957 to 2015. 

 Ken was born to Alice and George Gorman in Queens on April 23, 1930. Connie was born to Marge and Robert Corbett in Queens on June 24, 1931. 

 Connie and Ken fell in love in high school. Their first date was to the movies where they got caught trying to walk in backward through the exit doors. That initial setback did not deter them as they married on June 27, 1954. 

 Connie and Ken were extraordinary educators. After starting as elementary school teachers, Ken became assistant superintendent for Shoreham-Wading River school district and Connie became assistant director of special education for Three Village school district. 

 Ken obtained his doctorate in education from Columbia in 1968. Connie earned her master’s in education from C. W. Post in 1978. Ken received his doctor of law degree from Queens College and was admitted to the New York bar in 1988.

 They were 40-year members of the Old Field Club and enjoyed retirement at the beach, playing tennis and golf.

 They are survived by daughters Kate and Kim, son Ken, granddaughters Taylor and Nikki, great-granddaughters Logan Farmer and Lainey Venezuela, great-grandson Kameron Kenneth Farmer, Connie’s sister Marjorie Muller and her children, Ken’s brother Frank, and many adoring nieces and nephews.

Joan T. McCool-Kelly. Photo courtesy Bryant Funeral home

Joanie was born in Brooklyn to Joan B. (Geoghan) and Hugh B. McCool on Feb. 5, 1958. In 1965, she moved with her parents and sister Susan to Port Jefferson, the place that Joanie treasured most. 

She was a graduate of Infant Jesus School, Seton Hall and then Mercy High School and Niagara University. Joanie’s bachelor’s degree in transportation, travel and tourism landed her a management position at Amtrak. It was there that she met and married Chuck Szynkiewicz and moved to Princeton, New Jersey. While there, Joanie began a new career as a mortgage lender. 

Life eventually brought Joanie and Chuck back to Port Jefferson, where life was good. Joanie was a member of the initial team that got the Jefferson’s Ferry Lifecare Community off the ground. Joanie and Chuck, along with their beloved yellow Lab, Jack, enjoyed life in Port Jefferson and had many friends. This abruptly ended when Chuck passed away suddenly on the morning of Dec. 5, 2005. Joanie’s tremendous courage sustained her through this loss, as well as several serious health issues.

In December 2006, she met Pat Kelly, whom she married on Sept. 9, 2011, at St. Charles Chapel. Joanie and Pat enjoyed life on Long Island, spending time in Port Jefferson and taking in beautiful sunsets at the harbor. Every year, usually around June, they went on a cruise to Bermuda. 

Joanie was completely devoted to her parents and took great pride in her niece and nephew, Annie and Timmy. She will be remembered for her extreme generosity and kind heart, her courage and loyalty and her sense of humor, mischief and fun. Joanie’s passing will leave a painful void in the lives of her family and countless friends. 

She is survived by her husband Pat Kelly; her mom Joan McCool; her sister Susan Facciola; her niece Annie Facciola; and nephew Timmy Facciola. One of Joanie’s favorite charities was the Tunnel to Towers Foundation, where donations in her memory would be greatly appreciated (www.t2t.org).